Edited to add: Thanks for all of your comments. I appreciate each one... I have a lot to think about... I'll keep you updated.
We are not members of a church. I've been trying out a church off and on for many years, but something isn't right. My kids have attended their 'Kids Club' during the week for 3 years. The first year they went every Wednesday, participated in the spring play and loved it. The next year we were there most of the time and didn't participate in the final play performance as we had a conflict with a trip... it was like pulling teeth to get my oldest to keep attending. This year, the oldest doesn't want anything to do with it and now the middle one is following suit. I want to force them to participate, however, I haven't made a commitment myself so I feel somewhat hypocritical. Any suggestions. If it is this hard to commit to this church does that mean that it's not the right one?